10 REASONS WHY YOU ARE STILL SINGLE
In this Article there are 10 reasons why you are still single and single here means the unmarried or the separated. I am not here to judge anyone rather I am here to let you know that there is nothing wrong with being single. The society in which we live put so much pressure on single people especially single ladies to get married. It is a common thing that if you are single, you would have had one or two people ask you when you are going to get married.
When a woman is approaching 30 years of age, the pressure to marry begins to increase and this pressure can make her believe she is may not have a chance at marriage again if she does not hurry up and get hooked. Some single people may also begin to think something is wrong with them when marriage is not forth coming. Single people are made to believe marriage brings fulfilment and is the ultimate in life. People need to stop telling people to get married. Please no rush, no pressure. Allow it happen at the right time.
MYTHS ABOUT BEING SINGLE
1. The myths suggests that if your single, you are miserable , lonely and unhappy
2. You are irresponsible.
3. You have low self-esteem or too proud as the case may be
4. You are unlucky
5. It suggests that you are incomplete and you don’t have a life. It is all a big lie, a big lie of the devil. All these only aims at putting pressure on single people and making them make irrational decisions about marriage. This brings me to the 10 reasons why you are single
10 REASONS WHY YOU ARE STILL SINGLE
1. You have not met Mr/Mrs right – this is not about having a standard too high, most times the right person has not even crossed your part yet. You sometimes wonder why you have a lot of single guys or single ladies around you and yet still single. It is however possible that your Mr/Mrs right is not amongst any of them
2. You are not willing to settle – most times, people get desperate when the pressure of marriage begins to mount on them. They settle for just anybody that is willing to tie the knot with them. They even go as far as ignoring dangerous warning signs because they want to marry. Because they want to please their family or even society, they settle for just anything.
3. You are not seeking validation – I believe I am talking to Queens and princesses here. When You know your worth, nobody can tell you what you already know. This makes you self-validated and as such you do not need someone’s validation or approval. You know you can be happy without that man, you know you can work and earn a living without seeking financial security from that man. You are mentally and emotionally stable and for this reason you don’t need a man to make you feel beautiful or worthy. No man can just come and bamboozle you.
4. The need to work on yourself – marriage is not for two incomplete people coming together to complete themselves. Marriage is rather for two complete people who compliment themselves. You need to be emotionally, mentally, even spiritually ready for marriage. Some people acknowledge this and they take that bold steps in working on themselves. Even when faced with pressure, they know they are not yet ready
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5. You think the good ones are taken – yes there are wolves out there but there are still a lot of good ones who are ready for a life time commitment. There are still good guys out there looking for good ladies. All you need to do is position yourselves. Go to the right places at the right time, keep the right company. Etc.
6. You are protecting your well being – your happiness, comfort, security, safety, health is important to you as such you cannot afford to be in an abusive or toxic relationship. Most single people have been in one toxic or abusive relationship at some point and found a need to protect their well being. For this reason, they choose to remain single. Ladies it is better to remain single or separate if that relationship is going to cost you your well being.
7. You know you deserve more – when you know you deserve more, you will be patience enough to wait for the right man or woman and won’t jump at any chance at marriage. You are in a better position to determine who is deserving of you because no one else is in your shoes. When people pressure you to marry, they don’t know what you want in a mate, you only know that.
8. Unrealistic expectations about love – Another one of the 10 reasons why you are still single is that you are so used to fairy tales that your expectations of what love should be is very high. Hence the reason why you have remained single. Ladies I want you to realise that there is no perfect man or woman out there. You need to prioritise what you want or are looking for in a mate. Let’s say on a scale from 1-10, determine where that person you are thinking of considering falls and if that person falls between 6-7, then ladies common that is not a bad deal. Nobody is a total package even you yourself have some flaws that the other person may be be willing to overlook.
9. You give the impression that you are not ready to commit – some ladies give the impression that they are not willing or ready for commitment. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being single or enjoying your singleton but when you are ready to settle, do not pass the wrong message. You need to show that person you care when you actually do except otherwise. Make yourself available, stop playing hard to get. If you like someone, let them know you like them and let them know your motives of going into a relationship with them. This also applies to the guys here.
10. You are in a wrong relationship – for some people, they know right after entering a relationship that they are not willing or going to spend the rest of their lives with their partners but yet continue with such relationships. Some mates will even tell their partners beforehand that they are not ready to commit and yet their partners still continues to date them. You need to be in a mutual agreement with the person you date. You both should be driving towards the same goal. It is better to remain single than be in a relationship where there is a conflict of interest. You may think that you are buying time before Mr/Mrs right comes but the truth of the matter is that you are wasting your time. A wrong relationship is a distraction and a thief of time.
In conclusion, I would like to add that being single is a gift and should be enjoyed. Ladies you need to enjoy your singleton and enjoy it while it lasts. Do not let anybody put you under any kind of pressure to get married. It is your shoes and no one can fill it for you. You also need to decide what you are going to do differently on your own part, especially if you are ready for commitment. You cannot continue to do the same things and expect things to change, that is insanity. Let me leave you with this passage of the scriptures, it says ‘wait on the lord, be of good courage and he shall strengthen thine heart, wait I say on the lord’ Psalm 27 vs 14
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